What to Do With A Wiccan Mother?
A troubled Catholic fiance writes to advice columnist Margo (daughter of Ann Landers) about her coming nuptials and some problems with a Wiccan mother.
“We are Catholic, but about eight years ago, my mother decided she was a Wiccan. I have tried very hard to accept it, but I cannot. I find it humiliating for people to know because it’s embarrassing. She does, however, respect my need for it to be kept quiet…I do respect my mother’s choice to be Wiccan, but I don’t want it in my life, and I don’t want my future in-laws to find out. I feel like I am denouncing a part of her, and I feel guilty for that.”
Margo’s response warms the heart (at least my heart).
“Even without your stepfather trying to push your buttons, you should tell your fiance of your mother’s conversion, because this man is going to be your husband. It should be enough to tell him that you are as Catholic as ever, and you might also tell him that the broom business is nonsense, along with believing Wiccans to be devil worshippers. (This is the same kind of claptrap that says the Jews killed Christ.) The belief system your mother has chosen is actually benign and humane, if you read a little about it. Because your mother sounds sympathetic to your problems with her being Wiccan, in this case I think the sin of omission is permissible: Allow your future in-laws to believe your mother is Catholic. There is no point in stirring the cauldron. (Joke.)”
Margo’s response is quite kind and diplomatic. I might have been tempted to ask the daughter that if she was such a good Catholic why was she having sex out of wedlock?
“The major issue is that I am pregnant and engaged to be married. My fiance is from Costa Rica, and his family is VERY religious, and in our religion, Wicca is the same as devil worship. I have not told my fiance because I am afraid of what his reaction would be.”
Last I heard the Catholic Church frowns on deception, lying, not honoring your mother, and premarital sex. Maybe the daughter needs to take a few planks from her own eye and read up on the religion she claims to follow.
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