Stop Trying To Decide Who We Can Marry

Jason Pitzl-Waters —  June 27, 2006 — 4 Comments

In an unusual step, the advocacy group Religious Coalition for the Freedom to Marry has directly targeted Cardinal Sean P. O’Malley and other Catholic leaders for trying to push legislation that interferes with their own faith tradition’s stances on gay marriage. O’Malley, along with other Catholic bishops, have been leading an aggressive campaign for a repeal of same-sex marriage laws in Massachusetts. The RCFM has decided that it isn’t just or moral for one religious institution to use their political clout to decide policy for all religious institutions.

“We respect the Roman Catholic Church’s desire to speak in a public forum about this, but it has come to a point where their advocacy about same-sex marriage has come to impinge on our own religious practices, because not everyone believes same-sex marriage is wrong or sinful or against religious beliefs…” – Rev. Tiffany Steinwert, a United Methodist minister, and pastor of Cambridge Welcoming Ministries

The RCFM has several Pagan members, including Church of the Sacred Earth, the local chapter of The Covenant of The Goddess, and the Society of Elder Faiths. I’m glad these groups are on the front lines fighting for some of our most basic and sacred truths as modern Pagans. That no one faith should dictate, control, or unfairly influence the legal status of the sacred rites of another, and that where matters of love and the gods are concerned no human agency should meddle. While many of my readers are not practitioners of religious Witchcraft, I think this phrase from Doreen Valiente’s “The Charge of The Goddess” is most appropriate.

“Let my worship be with the heart that rejoices, for behold, all acts of love and pleasure are my rituals. And therefore let there be beauty and strength, power and compassion, honor and humility, mirth and reverence within you.”

While the powerful and influential will continue to try to hold a monopoly on truth, they can’t stop our sacred rites from happening. We will continue to marry and handfast those who are joined by love, no matter their gender, and eventually, the walls of a manufactured single truth will crack and crumble and all those joined will be lifted up together free of the boundaries that separate us.

Jason Pitzl-Waters


  • Hecate

    Really excellent post.

  • Anonymous

    I am totally new to the blogosphere. I just did a search for “beauty” and I found your blog because of the “beauty and strength, power and compassion, honor and humility” in your last quote.Those words describe Jesus. He was full of wisdom and truth, and He was infinite in compassion—He didn’t just “care about” people but He actively cared for them, and offered them life. He is the Son of God, yet completely humble, and the essence of strength under control. He gave His life so that we could go free. . . and He gives us His peace. No one cares more about liberating humans from every type of mistreatment and injustice than does Jesus.I see that you are an avid reader and thinker. So in the name of being open-minded, I urge you to give the Bible an honest chance (maybe start with a modern translation of the gospel of John, and Paul’s letter to the Philippians).10 years ago I found Christianity intellectually ridiculous and socially offensive. . . but God reached down and opened my disbelieving eyes to see Him. And He has completely changed my life.I used to be the most skeptical person I knew. I believed Christianity was nonsense at best, and discriminatory at worst. But I have found that there is indeed a God who loves His creatures infinitely more than we can comprehend. . . and He is the Source of all Truth. From reading a little of your blog, I can see that you are a lover of truth—I pray that you wouldn’t rest until you find it.

  • Raevyn

    I find it comforting to know that Mr. (or Ms.) Anonymous prays for us… though I’m not entirely sure I’m too keen on him/her hoping we don’t sleep till we ‘see the light’. *sigh* At least I have the chutzpah to leave my name…

  • ShaSha

    Sounds like he didn’t open Anonymous’ eyes wide enough. Or he/she would see that the same light can be found in other ways.I do wonder how much this truth seeker gave to given pagan thoughts a honest chance. Again, I doubt it. Or he/she would have seen that same light.This is the light that Jesus has shown me.